If you have an ex … likely there are things you’d like him or her to know … without actually talking to them face to face. It’s like, you want to tell an intermediate friend who you know will tell your ex. That way, the ex will find out how fabulous your life is without you having to actually talk to them.
What I have is a predicament … on one hand I want my ex to know how well I’m doing but at the same time I don’t want to give him the satisfaction of knowing I want him to know. Wait, what?
We were a good match on the surface, but as that sort of thing goes, reality is a different situation. He turned out, over time, to be a bully. He was the king of passive/aggressive, a master of the sly insult. He was the child of two alcoholic parents, an air force brat, demanding as hell and impossible to please. We stayed married for almost 12 years because I took “in good times and bad … forsaking all others … until death do you part” seriously. It never dawned on me to seek solace from anyone but my partner … to bad my partner didn’t share my monogamous ideas.
That was then and this is now. I’ve been divorced for more years than I was married and, for the most part, don’t give my ex much thought. Still, every now and then, like an unwanted ghost from the past, his shadow falls across my thoughts. Living well is supposed to the best revenge, but knowing the other person knows you’re living well feels even better. It falls under the category of karma … while you may understand that karma will get a person back eventually, it’s icing on the cake if you get to see it happen.
In the grand scheme of my life since, he is a ghost with no power. As Carly Simon sang in “You’re so Vain” … “you gave away thing things you loved and one of them was me”
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I can relate. In 3 days I will be divorced for 3 years, and very happy! Yet I miss the idea of what life was like prior.
You’re not alone. 😊